Monday, July 07, 2008

Overheard at the Post Office

This old man was standing in line in front of me at the post office today. He had respiratory problems so sat down in the corner waiting until it was his turn to mail his package. His voice was strong, but his body was feeble.

Finally on his turn, the post office teller asks if there is anything fragile or breakable in the package. He can't hear her so she resorts to, "what's in the package?"

He states, "Underwear."

For the next several minutes I begin hypothesizing on why this would be. Dirty laundry to send to a daughter to wash? New underwear for a family member? A weird fetish with a pen pal? I couldn't figure it out. What do you think?

Monday, March 31, 2008

Ching Ming Jie

This past weekend, I went down to LA to visit my parents and it happened to be the weekend before Ching Ming Jie, "Mourning Day" or "Tomb Sweeping Day" in Chinese tradition. On this day (this coming Friday officially), families go to the tombs of their ancestors, clean it, bring food for them and pay their respects.

My grandparents (Mom's side) are buried at Rose Hills, what is know today to be the largest cemetery in the world (with 1400 acres). Even at 10 a.m. on Sunday, there were lines and lines of cars there - afterall, there are a lot of Chinese in SoCal and this is the world's largest cemetery.

We brought a roasted chicken, some cha shui, fruit, chopsticks and plates, wine and even 7-Up for my grandparents to consume in the afterlife. We also brought a large tin to burn the fake paper money and paper clothes, shoes, etc. that my grandparents could use in the afterlife. I respect the Chinese tradition in this - I even enjoy it, but I wonder how much of this will carry on when I have a family.

This was one of the few times I had come with my family back to the cemetery, one of the first few times since the funerals in fact. And when I say my family, I mean my aunts, uncles and cousins too - it's always a big family affair.

It made me realize how much I miss my grandparents since they've passed away (on both sides of the family). They were such a big part of my life growing up, complex in our relationship, but simple and true in their affection for their kids and grandkids. It started to hit me - all the memories and love they offered and I started to tear up at the cemetery. I talked to both my grandma and grandpa, telling them about how I'm getting married this year, how I missed them and think about them often. And I realized that I didn't even remember the date they passed away. Something I feel like I should know.

So I wrote it down. I know they are with me still. Rest in Peace Poi Poi and Gong Gong. I love you and miss you.

Teoh San Wu
Sept. 9, 1922 - Nov. 29, 2001

Shein Kwee Lee Wu
March 11, 1922 - June 12, 2000

Monday, February 04, 2008

why i am voting for change

it's been a long while since i last wrote. and yes, wedding planning is going surprisingly well. dodger has been amazing at being a true partner in the process and it's nowhere as stressful or crazy as some people have made it out to be. lucky us. keep fingers crossed that it stays that way.

but the real reason i'm writing tonight, is because, since it is the night before the primary elections, i felt compelled to express why i am voting for obama.

i know their stance on issues is almost the same. that either of them in office is a first for minority peoples. for me the true difference comes down to their approach to politics. and the closest analogy i can draw is one that is close to the heart.

when the district i am working at hit a bottom about four years ago, there were a lot of approaches that could have been taken to help fix the system, governance, leadership. in fact, within the system, there were a lot of different approaches going on a the same time - not sure which was working the best. now, four years later, we have seen three leaders try their hand at change, improvement, reform. whatever you want to call the efforts.

there was the approach of trying to take a tough stance, make/dictate decisions using authoritative power, without much community building or listening, some basic freedoms taken away, deciding what was best for us while not always revealing all the facts. (sound familiar. maybe a bush?) then there was the slow and steady approach. work within the bureaucracy and the system. don't rock the boat, just make the boat work better. an executive but not a visionary. (hillary maybe?).

and now, while not quite the same as obama, we have a leader who is not afraid of change. someone who comes off as the everyday man and can relate to everyone from the mayor to the janitor in our building. he has a sense of humor, is human, can inspire. and he's invested in change, not governance. he's not in it for his own glory but to help the ones who need it the most, our children. And i'm seeing the difference in our results. and importantly, i feel it in the system. people are inspired and excited. there is a belief in the work again.

at any rate, i feel like i'm living and experiencing what i see obama could be for this country. i am not in the mindset of the heavy-handed approach. taking away my civil liberties? no privacy in the name of a war on terrorism? no thanks. i'm also less in the slow and steady camp of governance and policy making because so many before have tried that and haven't give us the change that we need in a time like now. we need a rejuvenation. at least a leader who is walking into office believing in change, rather than one who has given up on that idea before they even step through the door (i am optimistic here as i acknowledge that things maybe harder once he enters office, but that's a risk i'm willing to take). and he's a believer in community organizing and inspiring civic duty, which i'm a fan of.

anyway, that's my rant. see you at the polls tomorrow!

Friday, December 14, 2007

always handy to have around

IM from this morning

tatertot: don't worry

tatertot: i have a packet of fake mustaches

tatertot: they are always handy to have around

tatertot: just cuz

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

ld wha?

i will say for the record that long distance sucks more when you thought it wasn't a long distance relationship and it actually is...

Friday, November 16, 2007

the grumps and happiness

work made me grumpy today (and lately), so i thought i'd try to focus on the positive. With Thanksgiving coming up, I thought I'd start by listing out some of the good stuff.

I heart:
  • when music gives me goose bumps
  • seeing dads walk their kids to school
  • the smell of a freshly peeled orange
  • the awesomeness that is my family (see family bingo)
  • when my fiance lays his head in my neck
  • unexpected analogies
  • my mom's cooking
  • Grease 2
  • thoughtful gifts
  • waking up to a clean room
  • my new (red) nano ipod (haven't gotten it in the mail yet, but I know I will heart it)
  • the kisses on a good day and hugs on a bad day
What are some of yours?

Monday, November 12, 2007

and it's another year

i know i have been horrible at writing lately. i know i do it to myself. between birthdays (so many scorpios!), wedding planning (yes, we've actually picked it up again after a few weeks of hiatus), the work for the two boards i'm on, and trying to see the dodger what little time he's around, it always feels a little crazy around here. there have been many an occasion i've wanted to post. you know i love the reflecting. for now, i thought i'd share a sweet email birthday wish i got the day i turned the big 3-0 this year. Thanks Tim! ;)

From Tim:
Just wanted to wish you a fun and exciting Happy Birthday!

Your first one as an engaged person!
Your last one as a non-married person!
Your 30th one as a Little D