Stuck in the Moment

my boyfriend's ex-coworker came to dinner the other night. she was complaining about hating her job and how she should quit (like she has said for the last two years), how living at home was not great, but that she couldn't afford to buy a place (she's looking at $1M houses) and she could only afford a place if she got married (she just accepted the fact that she's dating this guy after 1.5 years).

i really didn't have much to say to her because, honestly, i don't know what to say to people like that. the U2 song, Stuck in the Moment came to mind:

And you are such a fool
To worry like you do
I know it's tough
And you can never get enough
Of what you don't really need now
....
Don't say that later will be better
Now you're stuck in a moment
And you can't get out of it

i have no patience for people who are stuck in the very situations they put themselves in and do nothing to get out of it. in my opinion, everyone has the ability to live deliberately, purposefully and make decisions that take control of their own lives. there's no reason, especially in this person's circumstance, that would prevent her from fixing all these things and getting on with her life and making things better for herself.

sometimes i think people just like complaining about their situations for the sake of complaining. they derive some sort of fulfillment/satisfaction from it, makes them feel like they are in this big life struggle (note: this is different from venting, which i think is a healthier way of talking through one's issues).

in reality, people know what's best for them - what decisions they need to make. they usually either don't want to confront those decisions or trick themselves into believing they don't have control over those decisions. and 9 times out of 10, they are usually wrong.

if you don't like your job, your significant other, your attitude, your friends - do something about it! life is short and here for your taking - no excuses.
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doh! wait a minute...did i write about this in an article already? the rerun themes of my life...sigh. http://www.recesstime.net/ArchiveDisplayAction.do?articleId=70