Let Boy Girls Be Boy Girls

It's funny - when i was back in california, i never had a problem with boys.

you see, back in the bay area, i was what you might call more of a "Boy Girl." Boy Girls are girls who have a lot of guy friends, or mostly guy friends - guy friends who will shoot the shit with you, tell you about their latest progress with chicks, play poker, not be afriad to be crass or cuss in front of you. They see you more as a friend than a girl and let you in on most of their guy talk.

well, here, at 72/28 business school (that would be the percent of men vs women), somehow it's different. I don't know if it's because we're in the midwest or if i'm surrounded by a lot more investment bankers (i was surrounded by quite a few in cali, i'd argue), but there is a barrier i can't seem to get used to.

some guys i'd like to think are my friends - guys i hang out with, bonded with, joke around with, have fun with - get tightlipped sometimes when i ask about whether they met any cute girls at the bar last night or what's up with their girlfriends (not the same guys doing both, if you are wondering...or are they?). Or i might be sitting in a room with a bunch of the guys and they will start talking about girls, but it's hard for me to just get into the groove of the conversation with them. and i've generally never had this problem.

is it bschool? midwest? or is it just that california guys are just cooler? i'd be open to any theories. :)